“𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝐢𝐧 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐭𝐡𝐲 𝐫𝐞𝐥𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬𝐡𝐢𝐩𝐬, 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞'𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐨 𝐛𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭”

….I said that to a client today

And I realized what a profound truth it is. I mean, the reality of it just kind of hit me.

There’s a paradox here…

𝐎𝐧 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐝:

Couples can experience greater depths of intimacy and connection. In fact, I just love helping them set a new bar of passion and fulfillment. This is the joy of my work, and within the calling and purpose of my life. 

𝐎𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐝:

Along the path of going from disconnected and bored to passionate and fulfilled is mastering the art of disappointment.

𝙏𝙝𝙞𝙨 𝙢𝙚𝙖𝙣𝙨 𝙩𝙬𝙤 𝙩𝙝𝙞𝙣𝙜𝙨:

1. Growing the muscle of coping with being disappointed (𝘣𝘺 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦)

2. Growing the muscle of being okay with disappointing (𝘵𝘰𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥𝘴 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘴𝘱𝘰𝘶𝘴𝘦)

Both of these are hard, and require practice and repetition. 

But one thing I’ve come to realize….

The healthiest couples are very strong in this, and the devitalized couples are very weak in it. 

That said, this alone, doesn't create passion and fulfillment. Because it’s one thing to have a strong “disappointment muscle”. 😮‍💨  

It’s quite another thing to master the “ART of disappointment”. 🥋