Disappointment "Muscles" ๐Ÿ’ช

Tawnya & Scott Landis
Apr 1, 2022
โ€œ๐ž๐ฏ๐ž๐ง ๐ข๐ง ๐ก๐ž๐š๐ฅ๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ซ๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐ก๐ข๐ฉ๐ฌ, ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ๐ž'๐ฌ ๐ ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐ญ๐จ ๐›๐ž ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐š๐ฉ๐ฉ๐จ๐ข๐ง๐ญ๐ฆ๐ž๐ง๐ญโ€

โ€ฆ.I said that to a client today

And I realized what a profound truth it is. I mean, the reality of it just kind of hit me.

Thereโ€™s a paradox hereโ€ฆ

๐Ž๐ง ๐จ๐ง๐ž ๐ก๐š๐ง๐:
Couples can experience greater depths of intimacy and connection. In fact, I just love helping them set a new bar of passion and fulfillment. This is the joy of my work, and within the calling and purpose of my life. 

๐Ž๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐ž ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐ž๐ซ ๐ก๐š๐ง๐:
Along the path of going from disconnected and bored to passionate and fulfilled is mastering the art of disappointment.

๐™๐™๐™ž๐™จ ๐™ข๐™š๐™–๐™ฃ๐™จ ๐™ฉ๐™ฌ๐™ค ๐™ฉ๐™๐™ž๐™ฃ๐™œ๐™จ:

1. Growing the muscle of coping with being disappointed (๐˜ฃ๐˜บ ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ)

2. Growing the muscle of being okay with disappointing (๐˜ต๐˜ฐ๐˜ธ๐˜ข๐˜ณ๐˜ฅ๐˜ด ๐˜บ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ณ ๐˜ด๐˜ฑ๐˜ฐ๐˜ถ๐˜ด๐˜ฆ)

Both of these are hard, and require practice and repetition. 

But one thing Iโ€™ve come to realizeโ€ฆ.

The healthiest couples are very strong in this, and the devitalized couples are very weak in it. 

That said, this alone, doesn't create passion and fulfillment. Because itโ€™s one thing to have a strong โ€œdisappointment muscleโ€. ๐Ÿ˜ฎโ€๐Ÿ’จ  

Itโ€™s quite another thing to master the โ€œART of disappointmentโ€. ๐Ÿฅ‹